Dear Dude: My 18-Year-Old Celiac Cheats. How Do I Help Him?

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Hi Gluten Dude…looking for advice.

My son has celiac, which we found out about 4 yrs ago. Now he is 18 and is eating gluten (hiding it). He doesn’t look healthy and doesn’t complain about it.

He says he’d rather die young eating good food than live a long life eating crappy food.

He will eat gluten free when I cook for him it but between dinners, he eats gluten.

He is way under weight and so pale he looks grey. I’ve tried really hard teaching him what the consequences are and how important it is to not eat it but all he does is hide it and lie to me about it.

Wow…this is just a tough one. What 18 year old doesn’t think he’s invincible? When my kids were that age, lord knows I would get the eye rolls when I talk about eating healthy…and pretty much anything else I say 😉

I’m not sure of the kind of relationship you have…though by reaching out for advice, it’s obvious you’re a pretty rocking mom. I just don’t know what kind of sway your words will have.

Have you tried leaving educational materials around the house that he could read? Perhaps send him a link once in awhile that talks about the high risk of cancer, etc. The key is to getting your message across so it’s accepted as love and concern (and not parental nagging).

He’s got to get out of the mindset that eating gluten-free is eating “crappy”. It just doesn’t need to be that way.

But again, I’m not 18.

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2 responses to “Dear Dude: My 18-Year-Old Celiac Cheats. How Do I Help Him?”

  1. siokenny5343 Avatar
    siokenny5343

    I feel so bad for these parents and kids. My knee-jerk reaction is “at least it’s not drugs…”. The benefit here is that at least it’s not illegal for them to eat gluten, no mark on a permanent record. Most kids are going to rebel in some fashion, and so often it ends up putting them in immediate danger either to their life and safety or their permanent record. Poor kids are just trying to find a way to fit in somewhere in the world, and no matter what they often end up permanently harming their health whether or not they have celiac disease. I, personally, was completely unhinged. No gangs or anything like that, but lots of partying and unsafe situations. I think your advice is sound, the best thing a parent can do is be there with gentle reminders and be a safe place to come home to when they’re ready. At least the kids already have the knowledge how to be gluten-free, so the foundation is there. It’s human nature to FAFO, even more so with teenagers. It will be a hard thing to watch them go through for sure, but it may just be something they have to come to terms with themselves.

    1. Gluten Dude Avatar
      Gluten Dude

      Well said 👏🏻👏🏻

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